The Sword of the Young Mormon Adult

The gospel is the sword which divides a slashing line between the world and God, between Zion and Babylon, between truth and lies, between reality and illusion.

It not only divides asunder the righteous from the wicked, but it divides the wicked parts of the righteous out of themselves. We are cut the bits as people by the sword of the gospel. Constantly finding fault in ourselves that divide us from ourselves. As a young adult in this world of so much sin and media, it's hard to separate ourselves fully from the world we are a part of.

The gospel has been called a refining fire. This life is a probationary "test" which can often feel like a competition. It's a survival of the fittest kind of thing as viewed by most of the world who believe in evolution. Coming home from a mission and trying to get into a good college, get good grades, find a companion, get a good job in order to provide for the family, it can feel more like a competition than anything else. Going on first dates feels more like sizing up; is this person what I'm looking for? Am I good enough for this person?

The gospel is the sword that provides peace for those that are enjoying the love of Christ and those that are suffering in a bitter world.

The gospel is also the sword which separates families and friends. Those that are living the gospel clearly feel a distinction between themselves and those they love that aren't. On the other hand, those that aren't living the gospel often feel judged by those that are.

This sword creates a dividing line that can be seen as stereotyping. It is hard to ignore from both sides of the line, yet we are told that all people are the same, that we should not judge.

Being a bystander in the slavery of the soul

A dear friend of mine, one with whom my heart draws unto often, has recently fallen back into old traps. Bad habits and old ways seem to evade this man's territory and win the battle over future goals and ambitions. Everyone around him seek to support and uplift during such times, when his world seems to crumble under unstable footing for all to see except him. How is it, that walls can come crashing down in the house of one's life, walls that took such hard work and vision to build, and the builder not seem to notice their destruction?

All of a sudden, nothing else matters. Just getting his dirty secret, which no longer needs to be kept a secret. "After all, if people don't accept this about me, they must be rejecting all of me? If that's the case, did they ever really love me in the first place? Why should I even care what these people think? I much prefer the company of those who accept me for who I am."  he thinks to himself.

The hardest emotions to muster through such experiences come surprisingly from the emotions of another. His girlfriend asks me to watch out for him in genuine concern for his well being. "It makes me really sad that he has all these amazing goals in life and has the potential to reach them but then he chooses to smoke and all of a sudden none of that is important to him anymore. I think that's what hurts me the most outta all this," she says to me. What am I to think? What am I to feel? 

So the predictable patterns goes: a few months of idleness and depreciation go by, close ties are re-established in the need for help, support and motivation come with flowers and love, new goals are set, a few weeks or months go by, and the war begins to rage from within again. Unfortunately, this is a battle he can't win. When all of his soldiers come to the front lines, they are smitten and brought low and depression and hopelessness takes over. Freshly rebuilt walls built on a sandy foundation can't stand the blows of this enemy. The walls crumble, the pictures on the wall fall to the  floor, the mirrors on the wall and glass windows shatter. He is left homeless and friendless; but he's got his fix, so for the moment, he's happy.

The greatest fear for those that love such a man is that one day rock bottom will be to much to bear. Without the hands of Christ to bear him up, can such a man fight the seeds of depression which roots run too deep to pull out? They have encircled the heart, squeezing out all hope of anything better. What now? A blackened heart of heartbreak and shame. The only escape: a rope in a bathroom. Please, not again. 

How can you help such a man? Who is breaking apart into a million pieces from the explosions of the bombs he himself has set around himself with such precision and care, to which he lights the fuse with a grin on face? What is it that could possibly break this rhythm? Who is the angel that will enter this man's life that will show him the light? It's often a 3rd party member which would be least expected. I guess I continue to stand as a light, not a judge, continuing to pray with vision that God knows this good man more than I do, loves him more than I do. Watching those you love fade into the mists of darkness far from the path of safety toward the tree of light may be the hardest part of such a path.

Short Book Review: The Great Gatsby - F. Scott Fitzgerald

I listened to this as an audiobook and had to listen to it twice due to its stunning rhetoric and literary genius. To be honest, the first time through, it was hard for me to focus on the story going on because of Fitzgerald's amazing command over the english language. I got lost in his portrayals of people, places, and events. Every sentence in The Great Gatsby is a masterpiece. I can see why it is one of the most acclaimed American novels ever written. However, this only heightened the experience the second time through when I was able to follow the story while being dazzled by its imageries. 

Aside from the comforting and pleasurable aspect of just listening to the descriptions of The Great Gatsby (which will take anyone to pinnacle imaginative altitudes), the plot and story are sharp and cutting. The character development is intriguing, as I was always going back and forth on how I felt about each character. At one point I would feel connected and respectful toward a character, then immediately the imitation and acrylic would crumble away only to expose an empty corrosive soul. By the end, humanity seems but an egoistic breed which only seeks to be seen without care for what is actually real.

The calculation of the thickening plot was impressive. So many weaving elements of the story come together: prior details that seem just details become important features to bring the story to climax. Gatsby in the end is one that reminded me of so many, flashy and presentable, one who always seems to look the perfect part, yet, just like the rest but far more extreme.

I recommend this book to all people.You will be quickly removed from any thoughts of your world by the book's beautiful tapestry and you will be sucked into the vintage jazz age of the 1920's where the only thing that mattered was how it looked.

Thanks for loving me enough to cut me down

While hitchhiking yesterday, Lauren and I were picked up by a smart British man who loved talking. He shared a lot of political information, but then began sharing his core life philosophies. He began talking about how you can never know where life will take you. "You reach forks in the road, and turn left or right. You can only know if it was the right choice after a long time has passed and you can look back retrospectively."

He then said something that was precisely what I needed to hear: "The greatest growth you'll experience in your life will be during the times you feel you are having everything taken away from you. Looking back, those choices that seem to cut you down, those times when things are the hardest and you are facing adversity are the times that you'll realize are the ones that really got you somewhere."

I've recently felt like much has been "taken away" from me. I've known from the beginning that it was God's plan for me, and that He has a wiser purpose and grander vision of my life than I ever could; but I've still felt recently like I've been taking steps "backward" in life, rather than forward. I've questioned God's planning often lately; not skeptically, but wondering if I've just lost my path. "Am I going the right way, God? because it feels like things are falling apart for me more than coming together right now," have been some recent thoughts.

I'm thankful for a wife who may not think like me, but has amazing and broad vision of what is really important and good. She is the bird's eye view of perspective when I'm the worm's eye view of specificity. I'm grateful to have a companion that makes up for my weaknesses. I'm grateful to a Heavenly Father who isn't afraid to cut me down. He loves me enough to chasten me (Mosiah 23: 21-22; D&C 101: 5; Hebrews 12: 10)

Like Hugh B. Brown, I am grateful to the Gardener who knows what kind of plant He wants me to grow into. It's not an easy or fun process to be clipped, pruned, chopped, and beautified by the Master Gardener. It hurts to be cut down sometimes, maybe only because we are worried about what the other plants in the garden will think of us now that we're cut down. But He knows exactly what we can become, and what we should become!

Short Book Review: Ender's Game - Orson Scott Card

I am not usually a fictional reader. I've read less than a dozen fiction books in my entire life. I usually read spiritual type books, or self-help type books. I read mostly for the sake of motivation and inspiration. Surprisingly, I got both of those with a splash of complexity and creativity while reading
Ender's Game.

Ender's game is fun because it's an easy-read book. The language is simple, yet Orson Scott Card has a way of describing people and settings that allows your mind to instantly be in the setting.

It was easy to connect with the characters in the book, especially Ender. I felt bad for him while he was being trained to become a warfare mastermind. The rigorous training he went through reminds me of the training all people go through in life. I believe God teaches as line upon line, precept upon precept. He tests us just enough to get us to the next stage of grace, then raises us grace for grace through trials, adversity, blessings, experiences, learning, mistakes. He will train as and help us become like Him through the grace of His son's atonement. As we come unto Christ, we can expect that we won't be swimming in shallow water, but deep water will be what we are want to swim.

Ender became a well-calculated killing mind, but deep down he never wanted to do any of it. So many people in power would be fine "cracking a few eggs along the way." Ender felt bad for every misfortune others had to pay at his expense. It was fun to see Ender's evolution as a person and how it corresponded with Valentine and Peter's. Witty and genius, Ender's Game has so much fun to offer, yet inspires and expands the mind at the same time.

Short Book Review: The Continuous Conversion - Brad Wilcox

If anyone has ever heard Brad Wilcox speak, or have read one of his books, they have become an instant fan of his! He's absolutely amazing! I read his first book, "The Continuous Atonement" while I was serving a mission in Pittsburgh about 4 years ago. It changed my entire experience with Jesus Christ. My understanding of how the atonement works changed forever. My focus on works shifted instead to faith and grace which allowed my good works to flow naturally, rather than being the focus.

Brad Wilcox, in his new book, "The Continuous Conversion," takes his ideas from "The Continuous Atonement," and expands them to the daily application of faith and grace through the atonement of Jesus Christ. As I read his book, I quickly realized that in many instances in my life, I'm trying to "prove" myself to God and "earn" my way into heaven through my perceived righteousness and good works. Brad helped me discover that this life is not about earning anything. 

Heaven is a place for people who have learned how to be like God. That process of conversion is continuous and works through the continuous atonement via our ongoing relationship with Jesus Christ, who is "the way, the truth, and the life" (John 14: 6). As we embrace our Savior fully, and trust that "His grace is sufficient" (2 Corinthians 12:9). I now see every step forward that I take in my life as a reflection of my experience with Christ's grace through His virtuous and generous atonement. Of myself, I am nothing, through Christ, every step I take through faith and repentance is a lovely process of coming at-one with Him, which is eternal life and bliss! Life is beautiful.

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Here is Brad giving a talk on topics held within this book, it will rock your world!

Short Book Review: Act in Doctrine - David A. Bednar

This is a beautiful book spoken by a powerful disciple of Jesus Christ. Elder Bednar is so straightforward that it is very hard to misunderstand what he's saying. This book has helped me more fully understand who Christ really is at the core as a person. While reading this book, it was constantly on my mind that there is a right way to live the gospel and there is a sub-par way to live the gospel. The right and best way to live the gospel is to live as Christ lived it, by looking outward and serving others. The subpar way to live the gospel is by looking inward and thinking about
ourselves, which is characteristic of my life.

The things that really caught my attention in this book are as follows:

1. The character of Jesus Christ as a person is fundamentally outward-focused, even in the most intense of personal moments. For example, after fasting for 40 days and in personal starvation, He recognized the hunger in others and fed them loaves and fishes. Again, while hanging on the cross in absolute torment, bearing the sins of the world, with a literal broken heart, Christ asked the Father, "Forgive them, for they know not what they do." The character of Christ as a person is to focus on other people. He is the prime example of losing His life and finding it.

2. Agency is not freedom to act. Agency is contextual, it has bounds, and it's different for everyone. Our agency represents the quality of our relationship with Jesus Christ. As agents, we as members of Christ's church are to represent Him. Thus, our agency is expanded as we more fully represent Him as His agent, and it is constricted as we chose to represent sin.

3. Testimony and Conversion and different. They are in relation to each other and can't be defined without one another. But to know the church is true (testimony) is not enough in the Latter-days; we must also be true to the church consistently (conversion). Our conversion is the gift we give back to our Heavenly Father for the gift of testimony that He bestowed upon us through the Holy Ghost.

4. Charity, like truth, is not something a person can possess or acquire. Rather, charity possess a person who is a truly follower of Christ. Thus, charity and truth are more relational that objects we obtain. Charity is the pure love of Christ, and whosoever is found possessed of it, it shall be well with Him (Moroni 7: 45-48).

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Short Book Review: Are We Special? The Truth and the Lie about God's Chosen People - Jeffrey S. Reber & Steven P. Moodey

This book will challenge any Latter-day Saint in their motivations for and their assumptions about salvation and exaltation. As a result, it's a humbling read, because it gets at our most self-centered motivations for living the gospel, even if those are unconscious to us at the moment. I feel like what the book has done for me is given me a framework to learn how to live the gospel more consistently as Christ would have me live it.

I have learned recently of the need to be in relation to Christ as primary and fundamental, even over that of following doctrines and principles rigidly as the Pharisees, who were so caught up in the law, that they didn't come to know Christ, which is life eternal (John 17:3). While teaching at the MTC it was very apparent that missionaries try to so hard to be perfect on their own. They try so hard to learn all of the lessons, and how to teach them. They want so badly to be perfect! I have tried to help them realize that repentance and the atonement will never be separate from their progression. That rather than trying to be perfect, we should instead seek to deepen our faith in Christ and in His perfection! We should quit focusing on doing all that needs to be done and instead seek to be who He wants us to be. The focus should be far less on not sinning and far more on repenting, and putting our whole trust in only Him who is the author and finisher of our faith.

Lastly, and as a part to being in relation to Christ, this book has made it more apparent to me that Christ is the light in all things, and that my very  breath depends on Him. I can't separate myself from or see myself independent of Him ever; even when I withdraw myself from Him in sin. My whole and being in this world is dependant on His light. To quote my favorite part of "Are We Special?" which highlights even more to me that I always am in relation to Christ:

"The first characteristic of discipleship is humility. In order to receive charity, the Disciple must first become humble... The first part of humility, which will be addressed in this section, is to recognize our dependence on Christ for all that we are and all that we do and all that we have. Paul taught the Colossians about our dependence upon Christ, "For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him: and he is before all things, and by him all things consist" Colossians 1:16-17).

"In His Revelation to the Prophet Joseph Smith, the Lord Himself testifies that He is "the light which is in all things, which giveth life to all things, which is the law by which all things are governed, even the power of God who sitteth upon his throne, who is in the bosom of eternity, who is in the midst of all things" (D&C 88:13).

"The Disciple acknowledges and appreciates the light of Christ as a necessary condition for every aspect of our being. The light is in us and through us and gives life to us, as it does all things, and without it we could not exist. Thus, the characteristics, activities, and talents of the Disciple cannot be understood apart from Christ and cannot come from the Disciple alone, as if the Disciple were somehow a self-contained entity. Instead, the Disciple's humility depends on Christ's humility, the Disciple's kindness depends on Christ's kindness, and the Disciple's goodness depends on Christ's goodness. Even our capacity for faith in Christ depends on Christ" (pg. 139-140).

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Short Book Review: The Power of Everyday Missionaries - Clayton M. Christensen

This was a phenomenal book! It is written to LDS people with the goal of sharing the gospel. Clayton Christensen shows that missionary work is not as much about bringing people into the church as it is about extending invitations! The ball is in our court when it comes to inviting people to learn about the gospel; it is in their court whether they decide to accept or reject that invitation. It's the same principle as a full-time missionary, invite everyone to be baptized! Of course not everyone will say yes, but that doesn't mean we don't invite!

The main points I got out of this book are as follows:

1. Don't make friends just to share the gospel with them. People know when they aren't being treated
sincerely. Treat people like people, not like objects in the form of baptismal statistics. Rather, let us instead invite our friends and the people we come in contact with to hear about the gospel; and continue being their genuine friends regardless of their acceptance or rejection of our invitation.

2. Find alternative ways to share the gospel. I created this blog actually in response to reading this book, as a platform for sharing LDS beliefs.

3. Set goals to find someone, anyone, to share the gospel with and to get to take the missionary lessons.  Clayton sets a date which motivates him to act. He shares amazing stories of finding the most random people (like someone sitting next to him on a flight) to accept the invitation to be taught by missionaries.

4. Don't judge who will or who will not accept the invitation to learn from the missionaries. Rather, invite everyone, and don't be surprised if the people that do accept are the ones you least suspected.

5. Don't limit your potential to be an instrument in the hands of the Lord! The stories in the Book of Mormon and Bible, where thousands of people join the church at a time by the teaching of one or two people continues to happen today all over the world! Clayton Christensen shares amazing stories of individuals, wards, branches, and stakes that do brilliant things with faith and sometimes literally bring thousands of people into the church in a short period of time.

My faith was renewed that all things are possible, even the bringing of thousands of our brothers and sisters to the knowledge of our Savior and Redeemer.

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Short Book Review: The Anatomy of Peace - The Arbinger Institute

This is a powerful book on relationships! I got my bachelor's in Psychology and have plans to pursue a PhD in either Marriage and Family Therapy or Counseling Psychology. Consequently, this book was very relevant to my interests. 

This book is very existential and hermeneutical in it's perspectives, which are views that are generally in direct opposition to mainstream psychology. As I have studied psychology, it has become apparent to me that psychology as a discipline sees people as objects, not people. Psychology seeks to generalize, control, and predict. It puts people into categories and boxes, stereotypes which are known as diagnosis. Psychology views people as no different from any other natural object. A rock falling down a hill is not responsible for the damage it inflicts on whatever is in its path. The rock couldn't do otherwise, if it falls, it falls. That's how mainstream psychology sees and deals with people. People are biological machines that are caused by natural laws (like the falling rocks). 

When I read The Anatomy of Peace, it's alternative views immediately resonated with me. The premise of the book revolves around the idea that our state of being in relation to others determines everything about our interactions with them. If we view people as objects, such as obstacles to get around, or things that help us get to where we are going, then it doesn't matter what we say or do, it will come off differently than if we genuinely see people as people.   

We have all met people that who we feel genuinely listen to us. It's a rare feeling, and is very refreshing. This book has helped me try to really listen to others, and understand them, and to not see them as means to my ends. It has changed how I view my wife, and how I try to live and be in relation to her. I don't want to be a hypocrite and an empty shell. I want my outer world to reflect my inner world! This book is about doing things right, and for the right reasons, which makes a huge difference for us, but an even bigger difference for those around us!

For more of my thoughts, see Ways of Seeing and Ways of Being

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Here's a video summary! It's a power-packed 5 mins!

Short Book Review: For Times of Trouble - Jeffrey R. Holland

This was a very peaceful book to read. I had never before thought of the Psalms as being so important! Jeffrey Holland helps the reader recognize the beauty and solace that comes from understanding the Psalms better. There are a few main points that I captured by reading this book:

1. The Psalms are the most quoted scriptures in the Old and New Testaments. They may be the most quoted scriptures period. 
2. Jesus Christ loved the Psalms, and they were very linked with the Beatitudes He taught in the Sermon on the Mount.
3. Jeffrey Holland has a section on the "Crucifixtion and Atonement", which are taught beautifully in the Psalms. Elder Holland talks about how Christ had none of His bones broken on the cross, which is characteristic of many crucifixions. Crucifiers break the bones of those hanging on the cross to speed up their death. However, Christ was already dead, so they instead pierced His side with a spear, in which case water and blood spilled out of Him. What is interested about the fact that blood flowed out of him with the water is that He had no internal injuries to produce such blood. What Holland, and others such as Talmage suggest, is that Christ died by a literal broken heart. Jesus said, " Reproach  hath broken my heart" (Psalms 69: 20), and also that "My heart is like wax; and is melted in the midst of my bowels" (Psalms 22: 14). Thus, Jesus died of a heart that broke, spiritually, emotionally, and physically because of the pain He endured for the sins of the world. 

His literal broken heart, which killed Him, is why He asks us to have a broken heart and contrite spirit, which is the sacrifice we offer to Him which will save us. I have a greater longing to feel what He felt for others. I desire greater compassion and love. I'm so grateful that my Savior endured so much for me. My hope is that I can experience a measure of brokenness myself, that my heart will break for the sins of myself and others, and that I will reach out more fully in love for all.

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There is a DVD included with this book. Here is a question/answer with Elder Holland clip:

Ways of Being & Seeing: pt. 2 – Seeing

           Our state of being reflects our state of seeing. “For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known” (1 Corinthians 13: 12, italics added). There is a ‘veil’ between us and God, which keeps us from seeing things as they really are, seeing them as He does. The truthfulness of our relationship with God reflects how truthfully we see the world around us (See pt.1 – Being).

            One day we will fully recognize all people as they really are, as literal offspring of God (Acts 17: 9). Our skewed vision is reason we would ever look down on anyone. CS Lewis said, “It is a serious thing to live in a society of possible gods and goddesses, to remember that the dullest most uninteresting person you talk to may one day be a creature which, if you say it now, you would be strongly tempted to worship” (CS Lewis, Mere Christianity). All people are children of Heavenly Parents. All people on this earth are brilliant; just a “little lower than angels” (Psalms 8: 5). The Hebrew translation of angels is Elohim (i.e. the gods).    

            We truly are just a little less than God. Through our Savior’s atonement, we will become his joint-heirs and one day be (which is to see) like God. Not only does He see us as His children, but He wants us to see Him as our actual Father. Therefore, let us look at those around us as divine beings, as potential gods and goddesses as they rightfully are. As we see people as they really are, brilliant children of God, we will be able to be sincere in our being toward them, acting no hypocrisy. 

Ways of Being and Seeing: pt. 1 - Being

            How we are in relation to those around us is more central and real than what we actually do or say. For example, I may take the garbage out at my wife’s request, and lovingly say, “No problem, beautiful!” but what I’m really thinking and feelings is “Why does that bossy beast always make me do this? She never does anything around here.” While I am being begrudging, my wife and I are inwardly being divided because I am behaving contrary to how I am being. The reality of this situation is not me taking out the trash; rather, it is me living deceitfully in relation to my wife. Relationships of being are the fundamental, not the outward words and actions. This is not to say words or actions are nothing; rather, it is to say that what is behind them is what matters most.

            Our relation to the Savior is no different; if we follow the commandments or give service begrudgingly, to Him it is good for nothing. The Lord cares more for the desires of our heart than anything else (1 Samuel 16: 7; D&C 137: 9). He cares about who we are becoming as human-beings, not as human-doings. Consequently, the Savior was very serious about hypocrisy. On many occasions, He would call out the Pharisees for going through the motions without the right motivations.

            Regarding following the Savior, the prophet Nephi recorded, “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, I know that if ye shall follow the Son, with full purpose of heart [emphasis added], acting no hypocrisy and no deception before God, but with real intent, repenting of your sins, witnessing unto the Father that ye are willing to take upon you the name of Christ…” (2 Nephi 31: 13). Consequently, how we are being in relation to the Savior is a direct reflection of how we feel about him, and how much we are following Him.

Industrial Vs. Agricultural: Learning and Becoming

I don’t believe Christ intends for all people to be the same. Thus, unlike conventional education, science, and psychology, which seek to generalize their findings to all situations and all people, I believe Christ sees difference as good and essential. Were it not so, He would have created us all the same. Christ is unlike conventional education, science, and psychology, which have all bought into the fast-food industrial model; seeing people as objects on a conveyor belt, trying to pump out the same things repeatedly at the fastest rate possible.

In this example, the conveyor belt is the use and worship of methods. This methodology is how conventional psychology stereotypes, or gets to diagnosis. As though all people are the same, and meant to be the same; consequently, they receive the same fast-food industrial treatment. Education is no different. There is a curriculum that has been designed to treat all children the same. This system has been called into question for destroying children’s creativity (Ted Talks, Ken Robinson).

            On the other hand, I see Christ in the agricultural model, which seeks difference in nature. Christ is the ultimate farmer whose work is to create a fostering environment of fertile soil in which all people can grow to become what He intends them to become. His intentions for all of us are different as displayed in the diversity, beauty, and uniqueness of His creations. Additionally, the farmer sees most of the growth when He is away, unlike the industrialist or conventionalist who views themselves as the only agent of change. Thus, Christ accepts and embraces the fact that we participate in our becoming, and thus His work goes even beyond His own possibilities and enters the realm of ours.

God wants us to make choices in who we become. This life is a classroom which provides context for all of us to grow and develop into our greatest selves. This growth can only happen as we involve God in this process, as He knows us far greater than we know ourselves. Additionally, growth and becoming are the natural outcomes of helping others grow and become. God has given a multitude of gifts to all people (1 Corinthians 12; Moroni 10; D&C 46) for the purpose of serving others, not for self-interest or self-elevation.

Consider the following quote by President Utchdorf, living apostle of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints:

“But while the Atonement is meant to help us all become more like Christ, it is not meant to make us all the same. Sometimes we confuse differences in personality with sin. We can even make the mistake of thinking that because someone is different from us, it must mean they are not pleasing to God. This line of thinking leads some to believe that the Church wants to create every member from a single mold—that each one should look, feel, think, and behave like every other. This would contradict the genius of God, who created every man different from his brother, every son different from his father. Even identical twins are not identical in their personalities and spiritual identities.

It also contradicts the intent and purpose of the Church of Jesus Christ, which acknowledges and protects the moral agency—with all its far-reaching consequences—of each and every one of God’s children. As disciples of Jesus Christ, we are united in our testimony of the restored gospel and our commitment to keep God’s commandments. But we are diverse in our cultural, social, and political preferences” (lds.org, April 2013 General Conference).

The Subjectivity/Objectivity Problem

For those who are honestly seeking answers regarding God’s existence, or His activity in the world, it can be a challenge because faith and belief are viewed as subjective and biased. These well-intending people turn to social media, politics, academics, or science searching for sources which are thought to be more objective and value-free.

The idea that there even exists subjective and objective “realities” comes from the philosopher Rene Descartes who made famous the idea of dualism, which is a view of the world that sees a physical world, and a spiritual world, separate but interacting. Thus, we have a spirit, and a body. Psychology embraces dualism as the mind (e.g. psyche) and the body. Additionally, what happens “inside,” such as emotions, values, and beliefs are viewed as subjective, while what happens “outside” a person’s experience is viewed as the objective, value-free reality.

Consequently, because science is the worldview that believes only things that are observable in the natural world are important, it is viewed as the neutral, objective, value-free way to discover truth. On the other hand, faith and religion is the worldview that believes God is deeply involved in the world. Because people of faith don’t separate the natural from the supernatural, they are viewed as subjective and biased.

Both of these worldviews are in actuality a set of beliefs about the world. The main difference is that those who believe in God are up front about their beliefs, whereas people who believe only in science pretend they don’t have values, but rather that they are simply neutral bystanders. However, the idea that “we should be value and bias-free” is itself a value. It is a value against values, or a prejudice against prejudice!

Here are a few examples of science’s non-observable and non-empirical beliefs about the world:

-          Only observable, “natural,” things matter

-          All answers can be attained without God

-          That there is a natural order to the world (e.g. natural laws)

-          All things and all people are governed and determined by these laws

These are only a few of the beliefs and values of science. However, that is just what these are, beliefs. In all reality, these beliefs and values are just as biased as religion's. They are a lens for seeing and experiencing the world. However, no person has a neutral perspective of the world, not even scientists.

My invitation is to be open to knowledge in all forms, including science! I’m not discarding science; rather, I’m inviting people to be open to their own biases and opinions. Furthermore, as Latter-Day Saints, we are encouraged to search for truth wherever it can be found. To share a few quotes from recent apostles: 

“Whether truth comes from a scientific laboratory or by revelation from God, we seek it!” (Russell Nelson, General Conference, October 2012).

“ “Mormonism,” so-called, embraces every principle pertaining to life and salvation, for time and eternity. No matter who has it. If the infidel has got truth it belongs to “Mormonism.” The truth and sound doctrine possessed by the sectarian world, and they have a great deal, all being to this Church. As for their morality, many of them are, morally, just as good as we are. All that is good, lovely, and praiseworthy belongs to this Church and Kingdom. “Mormonism” includes all truth. There is no truth but what belongs to the Gospel” (Discourses of Brigham Young, 3).

To be an honest seeker of truth requires openness and humility of our own misunderstandings. For understanding and knowledge to progress, we must own up to the fact that we don’t know everything. We all have values and opinions that guide our thinking, and that is totally fine! Truth is truth wherever it is found, no one has a monopoly. Additionally, God will not hold back truth from anyone who seeks it sincerely, “Ask, and it shall be given you: seek, and ye shall find: knock, and it shall be opened unto you” (Matthew 7: 7).

I know God lives; I have experienced him just as I have experienced the wind blowing although I have never seen wind. I see God’s effects and feel His influence daily in varying degrees. All truth comes from Him, because He is, “the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14: 6).

Many of these ideas have been taught to me by Dr. Brent Slife and Dr. Jeffrey Reber. For more information, look into their research.

Doing Things for the Right Reasons

Western culture is extremely individualistic. Everything is about the self. Even books about living “the good life” are generally in the category of self­-help, or personal-development. We have put ourselves in the middle of the universe and everything is about “me.”

Famous psychologist Carl Rogers created his theories on the premise that all people have an individual potential that can only be reached when the voices of others are essentially blocked out. When others get in the way, or when we are bogged down by values of others, it pushes us off the path to our “self-actualization”; which is how we obtain self-love and reach our happiest and highest potential. All truth is found within each person. Therefore, no one can or should infringe on someone else’s values or beliefs. After all, we all have our own journey, and no one should get in the way of that.

From this self-centered perspective, all truth is relative. Additionally, all things and all people are a means to fulfill our own ends. Relationships, people, jobs, everything, even marriage is for the purpose of fulfilling individual wants and needs to provide for our happiness. All things were created for me. All people are here to help me get to where I’m going. Most people actually view marriage this way. Often, people view God and living the gospel this way. We follow the commandments because we want the blessings; or because we want eternal life. We make God a means to our ends.

When we see God or others from this perspective, it is impossible not to have a skewed perception of them. We can't look at others as they really are; we are only looking at them from an economic standpoint, viewing them as objects to be manipulated rather than people. From this perspective, God is like our employer rather than our loving Father; we are trying to figure out what we need to do in order to get from Him what we want. When the rewards don’t come from living certain commandments, we call to question their validity.

There is a hierarchy of motivations that when understood can change our perspective on gospel living and being a Christian. People who obey commandments in order to avoid punishment or to obtain rewards are focused on themselves. They are making God the means to their self-centered ends. Beyond these two motivations is that of duty. These people live the commandments regardless of punishment and reward; but live the way they do because they feel it is their duty with no one really in mind. However, there is a higher and nobler way of living the gospel that allows one to put God before them: Love.

The highest motivation one can have for living the gospel is out of a love for God. “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets” (Matthew 22: 37-40). It is only in loving God that we become the means to His ends.

            Emmanuel Levinas speaks about how we all have an "infinite obligation to the Other." In other words, we are all infinitely obligated to others regardless of what we get out of it. Nothing Christ did was for Himself. He did not do what He did out of egoistic motivations. He did what He did out of pure charity, which is the pure love of Christ. Love, like truth, is not something anyone can possess. Rather, love and truth possess all those who are the true followers of Christ (Moroni 7: 44-48). Those who follow Christ seek His will out of love, not due to self-interest. Their desire is the welfare of others, not their own. “For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it” (Matthew 16: 25).

            How different would the world be if people sought careers with the mindset of providing value to others, rather than thinking about how much they can get? How different would our service to others be if we did it out of love for them and love for God, rather than avoiding punishment or seeking rewards? Like trying to earn wealth in the form of our work, are we trying to earn heaven and God's rewards in the form of our service?

What is the truth?

People often think of truth as similar to a natural law; and in Western Civilization we view laws as timeless and unchanging. For example, the law of gravity is viewed as a truth. However, does the law of gravity always work like we say it does, in all contexts? Are there any situations in which it can be manipulated? Birds have seemed to get around this “law” by their ability to fly. Astronauts in outer space are not pulled down in the same fashion we are when we jump up. Even fish underwater seem impacted differently by this concept. These examples prompt the question, are laws such as the law of gravity real, or the fundamental version of truth, when so much depends on context? “All truth is independent in that sphere in which God has placed it” (D&C 93: 30).

          Framing truth like the law of gravity is often how people of faith look at the laws of God, or the commandments. As though they are abstract concepts or truths that always have been and always will be. However, before the death of Christ, those who followed Him sacrificed animals on alters (extrinsic faith). Now they are asked to offer broken hearts and contrite spirits (intrinsic faith). Was it truth that changed, or context? “We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God” (LDS Articles of Faith).

          Truth is universal, but also personal. It is known, but more so it is experienced. Jesus answered Thomas’ question, “How can we know the way?” by saying, “I am the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:15-16). He did not say, “I will teach you the truth,” or “I will show you the way,” as though truth is something we obtain. Truth is not something we know; rather, it is someone we know. “For this is life eternal, that they might know thee, the only true God and Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent” (John 17:3). Knowing about truth is different than knowing Truth, who is God. Truth at the most fundamental level is a person we come into relation with, even Jesus Christ.

          Truth is a matter of faith, not knowledge. A person genuinely seeking guidance and truth must answer the question in the affirmative, “Am I willing to find truth wherever I'm guided, even if that is into a Mormon Church?” For those seeking Truth, my invitation is to pray and ask God if He is there, ask Him anything! If you ask with sincerity, you will come to know Him. It is in coming to know and follow Him that we can be guided in our daily lives. None of our situations are the same. Happily, we can have a relationship with the Truth, who can help us with all of the particulars of life, whether that is how to raise a child, which job to apply for, etc. God cares about all of these things. He wants to guide us in each of our contexts. 

            As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I’m grateful to know that God has restored His church with living prophets and apostles who guide His church through living revelation. This church is true because it is living. Truth is organically living, and like all that is living, there is growth and change and progress. Not stagnation and abstraction. God is not abstract; He is Truth that lives and guides each of us individually and His church as a whole in concrete, living relationships.